I became a Christian at 20, was sexually active & sporadically engaged at the time, and struggled with the whole celibacy idea for years. Not a struggle of intellect or conviction; a struggle of awakened desires that would not go back to sleep once I chose to be chaste!
I kept putting my desires to be married on the altar, & there are lots of tears in that statement. I asked God not to allow me to be married until I could be a real “helpmeet” and He kept closing the door to marriage in my pleading face for 10 years.
Now, I have been married for 25 years and can share a couple of points–
Both states, married or single, are referred to as “gifts” by Jesus. All gifts are given for the benefit of the Body of Christ and are not necessarily for the rest of your stay on earth. People die all the time, and that will include you or a spouse and could happen today. (Excellent motivation, by the way, to appreciate what God gives you every moment.)
Both states, married or single, require being dead to self and alive to Christ. If you aren’t struggling with something being put on the altar, you aren’t sharing His suffering or growing in His grace. Your sin nature is not compatible with anyone else’s and marriage does not mean constant fulfillment.
Both states, married or single, are actually temporary because there is only one marriage in Heaven, that of Christ & His Bride… which includes you if you choose.
Both states, married or single, are dim reflections of eternity and are going to be baffling with times of blindness. This means you walk by faith and not by sight.
Learning to be content in whatever state you are in requires knowing God & His Word, which is true theology. Only truth sets us free, and He is Truth.
Theology isn’t an intellectual exercise, it is knowing God & interacting with Him–“God-Logic”, that which makes sense (ology=the study of) because of God (theos=God). The hidden choices you make in response to Him every day are where you serve, married or single.